A marriage is a partnership between two people — and, in most Indian homes, between two families as well. Whether you were introduced by your parents, met on a matrimony site or found each other on your own, the questions that shape married life are the same: where will we live, how will we handle money, do we want children, and what do we do when we disagree? This compatibility test helps you ask them early, kindly and in private.
What the test covers
There are 24 questions across six areas that couples and families most often discuss before marriage. None of them has a right or wrong answer.
- Values & faith — how much faith and tradition shape your daily life, what you want most from life, and how you would share the work of running a home.
- Family & home — joint family or your own home, how involved parents should be, moving cities for work, and caring for both sets of parents as they grow older.
- Money & career — whether you both see yourselves working, saving versus spending, joint or separate accounts, and supporting relatives.
- Lifestyle & habits — weekends, food at home, drinking, and whether you are an early riser or a night owl.
- Children & future — whether and when you want children, how many, your parenting style, and who would help raise them.
- Communication — what you need when you are upset, whether to involve others in disagreements, how you show care, and how much time you need to yourself.
How the score is worked out
Most questions have answers on a scale — from “very involved” to “not involved”, say. If you pick the same answer, that question counts fully towards your match. If you pick neighbouring answers, it counts partly, because you are not far apart. Answers at opposite ends count least. A few questions, such as how you like to show care, have answers that are simply different rather than more or less; for those, each pair of answers has its own carefully chosen closeness.
Your overall match is the average across all 24 questions, and each section gets its own score so you can see at a glance where you are most in step. The results then list the questions where your answers are furthest apart, with a suggested question to start that conversation.
How to use your results
Start with what you share
Read through the areas where you agree first. It is reassuring, and it gives you a shared foundation to come back to when a harder topic comes up.
Take the differences one at a time
Pick one topic from “Talk about these” and use the prompt to begin. Ask why your partner chose their answer before explaining yours — very often the reason matters more than the answer. A difference is not a red flag; it is information you would much rather have before the wedding than after.
Bring families in when it helps
Some topics — living arrangements, caring for parents, supporting relatives — involve more than the two of you. Once you understand each other’s view, it can help to talk them through with both families, together.
Compatibility test or Kundli matching?
Kundli matching compares your birth charts, and many families value it. This test does something different: it compares what you each actually want from married life. The two answer different questions, so plenty of couples look at both — you can check your Ashtakoot score with our 36 Guna Milan calculator, and find more conversation starters in our first meeting questions.
Tips for taking the test
- Answer on your own, without discussing first. The value lies in seeing how you each think independently.
- Answer for yourself, not for what you think your partner or your family wants to hear.
- Choose the closest answer even if none is perfect — the conversation afterwards is where the detail belongs.
- Keep it light. It is a starting point for good conversations, not an exam and not a verdict on your relationship.